“Computer dating is fine…if you are a computer.” This flippant quote from Rita May Brown, posted on Online Dating Blog: “Funny Dating Quotes,” doesn’t have to be the descriptive norm for the typical online dating experience.
For those who may get discouraged trying to find Mr. or Ms Right the traditional way, and if they are tech savvy, matchmaking sites are a popular option. Many of these sites are convenient and effective because they match couples according to location, interests, and desired type of relationship. It is important, however, that people intending to try a matchmaking site learn how to find the matchmaking service that best fits their needs as there are a variety of types available.
It is equally important that those using matchmaking or online dating services learn to do so safely. Nothing is 100% safe, but if people using online dating services follow certain guidelines and safety practices, they can greatly reduce the risk of meeting someone who could be a potential threat to safety.
Finding the Best Online Matchmaking Sites
There is a broad spectrum of matchmaking sites from which to choose. Popular ones are Match.com and eHarmony.com. There are even sites for seniors.
Since there are so many online matchmaking sites available, it may be difficult for people to choose one that best suits their needs and finances. One of the first things that can be done to narrow down choices is to ask friends who have tried such sites to see which ones they recommend.
According to the article, “Tips for Picking the Right Online Dating Service for You to Meet Singles,” when choosing a good matchmaking site, there are certain criteria that should be considered. One thing to consider is the cost. Some sites charge an annual or monthly fee and additional fees for additional services. If finances are a problem, there are free sites available.
Another consideration is the type of profiles offered with a service. Some offer very general profiles lacking specificity. Others offer more detailed profiles, providing a better match.
In searching for a site, consider the features offered. Some sites offer instant messaging and chat rooms. Some sites offer magazines with helpful articles about dating.
Online Dating Safety Tips
According to Joe Tracy’s article, “Online Dating Safety Tips” posted on Online Dating Magazine, there are ten steps to using matchmaking sites safely.
- Users of online dating services should trust their instincts. If something doesn’t feel or appear quite right, it probably isn’t. In reading profiles and communicating with a potential contact, the gut instinct is a great indicator if things seem right or if things seem amiss. That amiss feeling is a good cue to be very careful.
- Users of matchmaking sites should not provide personal information, such as telephone number and full name, too soon. Revealing personal information can lead to victimization. A quote from Tracy explains, “Armed with just your home phone number, a person can easily gain access to your income information, home address, and even learn the value of your home. Armed with your first and last name, a person can do searches to determine quite a bit of information on you – where you work, what you do, and even what your home phone number is. So in the initial stages of communication, guard your personal information.”
- Once users start to feel comfortable with a connection and decide to move their email communication from the anonymous email feature provided by most sites, they should provide an email account that isn’t their regular account. There are many free email account services available through Yahoo, Gmail, or Hotmail that can be used for online dating communication. Using a first name only in the application form provides protection from someone being able to search the normal email address to find out personal information.
- Online daters should not give out their home phone number. They should provide only their cell phone number or use an anonymous phone service.
- Unfortunately, many married people use online dating services. Avoid married people online.
- Online daters should look for questionable characteristics in their communication with a potential date. If the person seems to be controlling, is quick to anger, or if he avoids certain questions, these are characteristics that might be cues to back off.
- People using online dating services should always ask a potential date for a recent photo. Anyone who lies about his or her photo or profile is someone to avoid.
- It is wiser to use paid online matchmaking sites. Though the free sites may make online dating more affordable, the free sites put one at greater risk for encountering potentially dangerous people.
- Online daters should avoid being lured into a false sense of security by sites offering background checks. Because laws for background checks differ from state to state, criminals can get into sites that do background checks. Proceed with caution.
- If two online contacts decide to meet face-to-face, caution should be the operative word. Always meet in a public place, and let friends and family know when, where, and with whom the meeting will take place.
Online Dating Magazine. “Online Dating Safety Tips” (accessed March 10, 2011).
Online Dating News Blog. “ Funny Dating Quotes ” (accessed March 10, 2011).
SinglesClique. “Tips for Using Online Matchmaking Service” (accessed March 10, 2011).
SinglesClique. “Tips for Picking the Right Online Dating Service for You to Meet Singles” (accessed March 10, 2011).
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